We Need to Hang Out, Billy Baker
We Need to Hang Out, Billy Baker
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We Need to Hang Out
A Memoir of Making Friend

Author: Billy Baker

Narrator: Billy Baker

Unabridged: 5 hr 38 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 01/26/2021


Synopsis

In this “entertaining mix of social science, memoir, and humor, as if a Daniel Goleman book were filtered through the lens of Will Ferrell” (The New York Times Book Review) a middle-aged man embarks on an entertaining and relatable quest to reprioritize his ties with his buddies and forge new friendships, all while balancing work, marriage, and kids.

At the age of forty, having settled into his busy career and active family life, Billy Baker discovers that he’s lost something crucial along the way: his friends. Other priorities always seemed to come first, until all his close friendships became distant memories. When he takes an assignment to write an article about the modern loneliness epidemic, he realizes just how common it is to be a middle-aged loner: almost fifty million Americans over the age of forty-five, especially men, suffer from chronic loneliness, which the surgeon general has declared one of the nation’s “greatest pathologies,” worse than smoking, obesity, or heart disease in increasing a person’s risk for premature death. Determined to defy these odds, Baker vows to salvage his lost friendships and blaze a path for men (and women) everywhere to improve their relationships old and new.

From leading a buried treasure hunt with his old college crew to organizing an impromptu “ditch day” for dozens of his former high school classmates to essentially starting a frat house for middle-aged guys in his neighborhood, Baker experiments with ways to keep in touch with his friends no matter how hectic their lives are—with surprising and deeply satisfying results.

Along the way, he talks to experts in sociology and psychology to investigate how such naturally social creatures as humans could become so profoundly isolated today. And he turns to real-life experts in lasting friendship, bravely joining a cruise packed entirely with crowds of female BFFs and learning the secrets of male bonding from a group of older dudes who faithfully meet up on the same night every week. “A refreshing and entertaining personal perspective on why men need male friends” (Kirkus Reviews, starred review), We Need to Hang Out is a celebration of companionship that is bursting with humor, candor, and charm.

About Billy Baker

Billy Baker is a staff writer for The Boston Globe, where he writes narrative features and humorous columns. A native of South Boston, he is a graduate of Boston Latin School, Tulane University, and the Columbia Journalism School. He has received the Deborah Howell Award for Writing Excellence from the American Society of News Editors, and was a member of the Globe team that was awarded the Pulitzer Prize for coverage of the Boston Marathon bombings.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Cody

I really wanted to love this book, because I’m a middle-aged guy feeling disconnected from his friends. Felt like this one was gonna be perfect for me. But this book about male friendship is really about a certain kind of straight male friendship that considers “ball bustin’” the height of affection......more

Goodreads review by Michael

Most disappointed. Although the breezy writing style is very readable, I found very little substance here. The author finds himself at 40 feeling disconnected and out of touch with his friends, and embarks on a quest to reconnect. My difficulty is twofold: first, though he feels disconnected, he's a......more

Goodreads review by Zibby

This is a hilarious and relatable book about what happens between men and their friends as they age, and more importantly, how men can reconnect. Part memoir and part self-help, the book is backed up by the social science that shows the adverse effects loneliness can have on men, including mental, p......more

Goodreads review by Tristan

I'm not sure what I wanted out of this book after hearing Baker on NPR, but I didn't get it. The book is advertised as a memoir, but shelved in the "relationships/self help" section of the bookstore. The book feels like an article stretched out to fill a book. The author acknowledges that he's far f......more