Spite, Simon McCarthyJones
Spite, Simon McCarthyJones
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Spite
The Upside of Your Dark Side

Author: Simon McCarthy-Jones

Narrator: Chris Clarkson

Unabridged: 6 hr 5 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Basic Books

Published: 04/13/2021


Synopsis

Spite angers and enrages us, but it also keeps us honest. In this provocative account, a psychologist examines how petty vengeance explains human thriving.

Spite seems utterly useless. You don't gain anything by hurting yourself just so you can hurt someone else. So why hasn't evolution weeded out all the spiteful people?

As psychologist Simon McCarthy-Jones argues, spite seems pointless because we're looking at it wrong. Spite isn't just what we feel when a car cuts us off or when a partner cheats. It's what we feel when we want to punish a bad act simply because it was bad. Spite is our fairness instinct, an innate resistance to exploitation, and it is one of the building blocks of human civilization. As McCarthy-Jones explains, some of history's most important developments—the rise of religions, governments, and even moral codes—were actually redirections of spiteful impulses.

A provocative, engaging read, Spite shows that if you really want to understand what makes us human, you can't just look at noble ideas like altruism and cooperation. You need to understand our darker impulses as well.

Reviews

Goodreads review by David

There are four basic social behaviors: co-operation, selfishness, altruism and spite. Simon McCarthy-Jones of Trinity College, Dublin has zeroed in on the last one in his book, Spite. It is wider and deeper than you might think. Humans, and pretty much only humans, have a pronounced tendency to spite......more

Goodreads review by Chris

3rd read: This is probably the first book that I’ve read for a third time. I can’t get enough of it. Maybe it’s because I’ve been feeling really spiteful lately and see how often others use spite as well. I had a long history of anger issues, and it’s helped me to understand what’s going on. Spite is......more

Goodreads review by Ashley

Spite: The Upside of Your Dark Side by Simon McCarthy-Jones tells us why spite can actually be a good thing, even though it probably doesn’t seem like it could be. An act is considered spiteful if it involves harming another person, but in doing so, also harming (or potentially harming) oneself. Spit......more

Goodreads review by Jeff

You've Heard Of The Imitation Game. Meet The Ultimatum Game. McCarthy-Jones does a phenomenal job in this text of analyzing what exactly spite - which he defines as a behavior that harms both oneself and the other - is, why it is seemingly necessary for human advancement, how it seems to have come t......more

Goodreads review by Monique

This book is super easy to read for being a nonfiction piece on a psychological phenomenon. There's a lot of things you don't realize are spiteful or an act of spite. I found it informational but not a difficult-to-understand analysis of spite. It's interesting to see how spite can have its pros and......more