True to You, Kathleen Smith
True to You, Kathleen Smith
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True to You
A Therapist's Guide to Stop Pleasing Others and Start Being Yourself

Author: Kathleen Smith

Narrator: Christine Lakin

Unabridged: 6 hr 58 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 07/09/2024

Includes: Bonus Material Bonus Material Included


Synopsis

A Guide to the Theory and Practice of Creating Authentic Relationships

When’s the last time you felt as composed as you portray to your boss, family and friends? If there’s a discord between the two, you’re not alone. Humans are master pretenders—we often seem stronger, calmer and more mature than we really are, while the truth is we’re full of doubts and self-criticism that pushes us to borrow reassurance from friends, beliefs from strangers on the internet, or attention that, in the moment, makes us feel successful, but leaves us totally hollow and burnt out.

True to You is a relatable self-help guide for people who want to learn to live less focused on others’ reactions and more confidently by their own principles. Readers will learn how to:

· Interrupt relationship patterns that keep you stuck.
· Rely less on praise and approval from others.
· Develop a solid sense of self in anxious times.
· Build more authentic and rewarding relationships.

Dr. Smith uses examples from the lives of her therapy clients to explain how we borrow confidence, calmness, and beliefs from our relationships and offers actionable steps and exercises for building a life with your own best-thinking. With a healthy dose of humor, she unpacks the science of our social nature, explaining why we try so hard to be what others want us to be and how we can start living from the inside out. By learning how to be more responsible for yourself, rather than over-responsible for everyone else, you can find the freedom to develop richer relationships, pursue what’s important to you, and feel steadier in this very anxious world.

A Macmillan Audio production from St. Martin’s Press Essentials.

About Kathleen Smith

Dr. Kathleen Smith is a licensed therapist and mental health writer who lives in Washington, DC. An associate faculty member of the Bowen Center for the Study of the Family, she teaches Bowen family systems theory to leaders around the globe. Breaking down therapy concepts into witty, relatable stories for readers, Dr. Smith is the author of Everything Isn’t Terrible (Hachette, December 2019) and a popular newsletter with over 10,000 subscribers. She has been interviewed by The New York Times and The Washington Post about anxiety and relationships, and her essays have appeared in Slate, Salon, New York Magazine, Psychology Today, and more.

About Christine Lakin

Christine Lakin is an acclaimed audiobook narrator and Earphones Award winner, recognized for her engaging performances. In addition to her work as an actress—famously playing Alicia "Al" Lambert on the sitcom Step by Step— Christine has narrated more than 200 audiobooks, as noted on Audible. Her narration skills have earned her industry praise, including 14 Earphones Awards, several Best of Year awards, and an Auddie nomination.Christine is inspired by the inner lives of the characters she voices, mood and tonality of the writing and plot twists.Her style ranges from dramatic and emotional to wry and comedic. She loves working withaccents and assuming the personalities on the page when necessary.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Angela on June 06, 2024

if you are an overthinker + people pleaser, you will get something out of this book!......more

Goodreads review by Audrey on April 22, 2024

I like the pop culture references included in each chapter. The book is easy to read but everything in it is so basic. It doesn't give much to go about making changes. This might be good for people just breaking into self-help or therapy. But it won't help those who are deep into these topics. I recei......more

Goodreads review by Amy on June 24, 2024

As a therapist, I rationally know how to set boundaries, but to implement them is another thing. Reading a book written by a therapist about the importance of therapists utilizing the skills we teach everyday was a breath of fresh air. I have read a few books written by therapists that seemed very i......more

Goodreads review by Nima on May 23, 2024

This was one of the better self-help books I have ever come across. This should be read by every person who spends their life trying to please others. Full of helpful, insightful, and easy to follow ideas on how to improve oneself. Highly recommend!! Thank you, #Netgalley and #McMillanaudio, for this......more

Goodreads review by Rebecca on August 03, 2024

I listened to the audio book version. This gave me a lot to think about. I'm reconsidering what it means to be mature, what my reactions are to people around me, and why I have those reactions. I think this is one of those books I'll have to go over a few more times to really let the message sink in.......more


Quotes

"True to You is a beautiful blend of storytelling, science and practical tools. Smith uses her expertise to introduce true boundary setting tools to build (and rebuild) our relationships to others and ourselves."
- Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play

"True to You is the book you want when you're ready to figure out how to change relationship patterns that aren't working. I learned so much, I might just flip back to page one and start it again!"
- Mary Laura Philpott, author of Bomb Shelter: Love, Time, and Other Explosives

“If you long to have relationships that don't make you feel anxious or beholden to another person, Smith's book will help you get unstuck. This book truly offers a new way to be yourself in the world, have healthier relationships at home and work, and live the life that you want to live.”
- Morra Aarons-Mele, author of The Anxious Achiever: Turn Your Biggest Fears into Your Leadership Superpower

“Humans are social creatures, and it is so easy to become more attuned to the group than to ourselves. In this engaging and conversational book, Dr. Smith gives practical steps for spending less time worrying about everyone else’s anxiety, and spending more time becoming the best people we can be.”
- Laura Vanderkam, author of Tranquility by Tuesday: 9 Ways to Calm the Chaos and Make Time for What Matters

"Reading True to You felt like one “aha!” moment after another, on every page. Smith leads us through this new terrain with such firm encouragement and such a steady, reassuring presence that you will be braver than you thought possible in confronting your own roles in the systems in your life. I learned so much from this book. I will read it again, and probably again after that. I can’t imagine a single person that this book might not help.”
- Kerry Egan, author of On Living.

“This remarkable book will change how you approach your relationships, providing concrete tips, strategies, and new ways of thinking that are clear and powerful. Kathleen Smith has spent years studying how to improve human relationships and helping clients do just that. True to You is the perfect book for people who are frustrated at their inability to kick bad relationship habits that make them frustrated and unhappy. This book will help anyone seeking to create deeper connections in their families, at home, and at work. It is an essential read for anyone who wants to make better relationship choices and learn how to be their best and most effective self.”
- Karl Pillemer, PhD, author of Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them