The Dance of Intimacy, Harriet Lerner
The Dance of Intimacy, Harriet Lerner
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The Dance of Intimacy

Author: Harriet Lerner

Narrator: Harriet Lerner

Abridged: 2 hr 52 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: HarperAudio

Published: 05/11/2004


Synopsis

The Dance of Intimacy takes a careful look at relationships where intimacy is most challenged by too much emotional distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain. In clear, direct and dramatic terms, Dr. Lerner illustrates how we can move differently in these relationships -- be they with a distant or unfaithful spouse, a depressed sister, a difficult mother, an alcoholic father, an uncommitted lover, a dying parent, or an estranged family member.And she teaches us about ""the differences that make a difference"" -- the changes we can make in one or two significant relationships that will affect our capacity for intimacy and selfhood for a lifetime.The Dance of Intimacy offers no ""quick fix"" for the human dilemma that we all confront. Instead, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, respectful, and helpful insights on intimate relationships that both men and women may ever encounter. Picking up where the best-selling The Dance of Anger left off, Dr. Lerner redefines the meaning of intimacy for today, and shows how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed.

About Harriet Lerner

Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., is one of our nation’s most loved and respected relationship experts. Renowned for her work on the psychology of women and family relationships, she served as a staff psychologist at the Menninger Clinic for more than two decades. A distinguished lecturer, workshop leader, and psychotherapist, she is the author of The Dance of Anger and other bestselling books. She is also, with her sister, an award-winning children's book writer. She and her husband are therapists in Lawrence, Kansas, and have two sons.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Heather on March 26, 2011

You can't fix a relationship by focusing on the relationship. Since it is an act of teamwork, it can never be controlled by only one of its parts, and can never be more than the sum of those parts. But when one individual envisions what a healthy relationship is, and creates and acts out that vision......more

Goodreads review by zara on April 30, 2025

I urgently read this to support myself in supporting others as a mediator and facilitator! The chapter on triangles was particularly helpful for the specific cases I’m navigating, and I also really appreciated the emphasis on self-focus. I’m sitting too with the lesson about the need to move slowly......more

Goodreads review by Cindy on October 05, 2014

Perfect book for improving one self on how to be intimate with others. I love the section on how to do self focus. I have a difficult time with this. I tend to do the whole "You do this and this.." whereas I need to focus on my self. "I feel this.." "I feel so and so.." I also like the section on se......more

Goodreads review by Morgan on December 07, 2015

The Dance of Intimacy is written as a guide for women who are seeking to deepen the intimacy in their important relationships. It had a lot of great advice and insight, and I found it to be equally applicable to my situation as a man. The author takes a perspective that is strongly feminist and also......more

Goodreads review by K on December 26, 2010

It's a pity that I read this so many years after reading The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships, because I no longer remember The Dance of Anger: A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships well enough to tell you whether the two......more