Why We Love, Dr. Anna Machin
Why We Love, Dr. Anna Machin
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Why We Love
The New Science Behind Our Closest Relationships

Author: Dr. Anna Machin

Narrator: Sophie Bentinck

Unabridged: 11 hr 42 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 02/01/2022


Synopsis

An Oxford evolutionary anthropologist explores the ever-elusive science of love.

What can the social and life sciences tell us about the most fundamental and unquantifiable human experience—love? Anna Manchin is interested in the the the most inclusive possible answer, one that, unlike previous books on the subject, considers friendship and family on par with romantic love, as well as polyamory, chosen families, queer love, and touchingly, the love we feel for pets, celebrities, and deities.

Anna delves into these intimate relationships from the levels of biology, chemistry, and neuroscience all the way up to psychology, sociology, and evolution, in engaging, accessible, and ever-charming prose.

But Anna doesn’t shy away from love’s darker consequences – its addictive nature which can lead us towards, or leave us susceptible to, manipulation, coercion, and even violence. And yet, in the end, her book is an argument for love. Growing evidence shows that the nature and quality of our relationships is the most significant factor in our life satisfaction, happiness, physical and mental health – more important than quitting smoking or losing weight. Love is the center of what makes us human. It is, by nature, inefficient – and in our ever-busier world, it can tend to be shunted to the side. Anna’s goal, therefore, is to expand our understanding and reinvigorate our awe at the complexities and intricacies of the human heart.

Building on the great tradition of writers like Esther Perel, Alain de Botton, Erich Fromm, Stan Tatkin, Sue Johnson, and Helen Fisher, Anna’s depth of research and wells of empathy bring us many leaps forward in the eternal project of understanding ourselves.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Alan on February 16, 2025

DR. Anna Machin, evolutionary anthropologist examines all kinds of love:romantic, parental, friends, spiritual, idols, pets. She cites studies show which part of brains light up with release of certain body chemicals. Moms, dads, different sexes, ethnic groups can have different responses. Beta-endo......more

Goodreads review by Helen on April 09, 2022

This book gets quite scientific and while I can't say I understood every little thing, I really appreciate the scope of Machin's writing on the neuroscience and genetics of love. She's impressively thorough for a (fairly) short book, covering an expansive list of topics under the umbrella of love-fr......more

Goodreads review by Lara on February 25, 2023

Quite an ambitious book that goes into a lot of detail (particularly concerning genetics and neuroscience) which I'm familiar enough with to follow. However, it gets quite tiring sometimes and other parts are quite basic. Machin's perspective is also quite evolution and biology heavy so just keep th......more

Goodreads review by Rachel on July 15, 2023

Interesting and clearly well researched but can get tiring and tedious through the more theory based sections. Not because they are boring but I found them a bit difficult to understand with all the official numbers as a visual person.......more

Goodreads review by Majla on December 02, 2023

Brilliant discovery of Anna Machin thanks to the new series of BBC 4 „Seven Deadly Psychologies“. “I understand that John believes that Mary knows that Stuart imagines that Jane is cheating on him.”......more