The People Pleasers Guide to Loving ..., Dr. Mike Bechtle
The People Pleasers Guide to Loving ..., Dr. Mike Bechtle
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The People Pleaser's Guide to Loving Others Without Losing Yourself

Author: Dr. Mike Bechtle

Narrator: Mike Bechtle

Unabridged: 5 hr 17 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 01/19/2021


Synopsis

We all want other people to like us and think well of us. But when we depend on the praise, admiration, or appreciation of others for our sense of self-worth, we become trapped in an exhausting and debilitating cycle of people-pleasing relationships where we always give and rarely receive. The most common advice we hear—Start putting your own needs first!—doesn't work, because we do love helping other people!

Thankfully, the solution to the people pleaser's "problem" isn't to fundamentally change who you are—it's to fundamentally change where you find your worth. In this freeing book, Dr. Mike Bechtle shows you stop letting your fears of rejection, criticism, invisibility, or inadequacy drive your actions and start rebuilding your sense of self-worth from the inside out. When you do, you'll discover that what you once thought of as a struggle is actually a strength.

About Dr. Mike Bechtle

Dr. Mike Bechtle is the author of seven books, including People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys and How to Communicate with Confidence. His articles have appeared in publications such as Writer's Digest, Pastors.com, and Entrepreneur. A frequent speaker, Bechtle lives in California.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Kathy on February 08, 2021

I've been a recovering people pleaser for many years now and if I'd had this book available when I started, I would have saved myself a lot of struggle. This book is filled with wisdom, encouragement, and practical support. I've read all of Mike Bechtle's books and I've never been disappointed. All......more

Goodreads review by Lana on February 19, 2021

As a life-long PEOPLE PLEASER, I was delightfully surprised that I too could become a healthy and confident, self-controlled pleaser! Yay! A pleaser, who is no longer controlled by what others think and no longer willing to jump through flaming hoops to meet their needs. As Dr.Bechtle stated in his b......more

Goodreads review by Chynna on February 09, 2021

WOW! I wasn't sure what to expect when I first began reading this book. I definitely feel like I am a people pleaser, and was worried I would get the typical "you can't make everyone happy" or "not everybody will like you and that's ok" answer from this book, but oh my goodness it was so much better......more

Goodreads review by Phil on March 04, 2021

I don't consider myself to be a people pleaser, but the "test" in chapter 2 did point out some areas that need attention. Still, I have found much insight not only into some of the characteristics of some people I know, AND into my own motivation for some behavior. As of today, I have only read the f......more

Goodreads review by Kerry on February 03, 2021

Mike Bechtle's book is a well-written self-help guide that may actually help people! He clearly lays out an argument (and process) for his thesis: that people-pleasing doesn't have to be unhealthy if done with the right motivation: to truly help others instead of making yourself liked or feel better......more