Once Upon a Stranger, Dr. Gillian Sandstrom
Once Upon a Stranger, Dr. Gillian Sandstrom
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Once Upon a Stranger
The Science of How “Small” Talk Can Add Up to a Big Life

Author: Dr. Gillian Sandstrom

Narrator: Dr. Gillian Sandstrom, Nan McNamara

Unabridged: 8 hr 31 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: HarperOne

Published: 03/31/2026

Includes: Bonus Material Bonus Material Included


Synopsis

"If you’ve ever avoided talking to strangers, this book might change your mind about giving them their space. And that, as Gillian so perfectly explains, might change everything." —Angela Duckworth, NEW YORK TIMES bestselling author of GRITDiscover how making connections with strangers leads to positive shifts in our everyday lives, from preeminent researcher and professor of the psychology of kindness Dr. Gillian Sandstrom.
Do you ever feel lonely, even in a crowd? Do you feel anxious or worried about what others think of you, or struggle to make friends? You are not alone. But the truth is, opportunities for positive connection and community are all around you.In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Gillian Sandstrom reveals that by talking to strangers, we can unlock more joy, curiosity, and goodwill every day. In an age when loneliness is a social health crisis and harmful behaviors like groupthink increase our perception of distance and polarization, this transformational guide explains the benefits of stretching our perceived limits and connecting with our fellow humans, including:
Increased happiness and wellbeingImproved social skills and self-esteemReduced anxiety and social biasesExpanded connections and social circlesCombining powerful scientific findings with stories from her own life, Dr. Sandstrom offers us a new vision of a life well lived, when we have the courage to reach out and simply say, “hello.”Supplemental enhancement PDF accompanies the audiobook.

About Dr. Gillian Sandstrom

Gillian Sandstrom is an Associate Professor in the Psychology of Kindness at the University of Sussex. Her research has been featured across the media, including the New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, and The Atlantic, and has been covered by other outlets around the world. She has been interviewed for major podcasts and radio shows, including Hidden Brain, NPR's Life Kit, and Claudia Hammond's All in the Mind. She lives in Brighton, England.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Milla on April 07, 2026

I really enjoyed this book! I've been a big fan of Dr. Sandstorm's work for a while now, so I might be biased. Nevertheless, I thought this was a great example of the balance of science and personal storytelling that makes for a great pop-psych book!......more

Goodreads review by Demetri on March 25, 2026

The People We Keep Mistaking for Scenery On Gillian Sandstrom’s “Once Upon a Stranger,” and the ordinary encounters that make a life feel less mute, less private, and more human By Demetris Papadimitropoulos | March 24th, 2026 Two strangers wait beneath station light at dusk, not yet speaking, while th......more

Goodreads review by Jill Dimic on April 02, 2026

What an amazing book! Gillian’s blend of storytelling and data makes a compelling case for why we should say “Hi,” or “I like your shoes,” or “Have you hiked this before?” These small conversations genuinely help create a more joyful, connected life. Full disclosure: I’ve known Gillian for years, so......more

Goodreads review by Traci on March 31, 2026

This book is fantastic and life-changing. I mean this seriously. It explains and then teaches you a simple practice you can incorporate in your daily behavior that can lead to a variety of wonderful results. To be fair, I have a bit of bias -- I read and commented on the book as it was being written......more

Goodreads review by Marisa on March 31, 2026

Full disclosure: I blurbed this book. Even though I study connection, I learned so much more from this book. Sandstrom does a great job debunking the idea that interactions with strangers are "lesser" than conversations with intimates, or that the value of talking to a stranger comes from the possib......more