My Father Before Me, Chris Forhan
My Father Before Me, Chris Forhan
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My Father Before Me
A Memoir

Author: Chris Forhan

Narrator: George Newbern

Unabridged: 9 hr 15 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 06/28/2016


Synopsis

An award-winning poet’s “beautifully written” (The Seattle Times) portrait of an American family and his own coming of age in the 1960s and 1970s in the wake of his father’s suicide. This memoir “belongs on the special shelves we keep for the books we cannot quite forget” (George Hodgman).

The fifth of eight children, Chris Forhan was born into a family of secrets. He and his siblings learned, without being told, that certain thoughts and feelings were not to be shared. On the evenings his father didn’t come home, the rest of the family would eat dinner without him, his whereabouts unknown, his absence pronounced but unspoken. And on a cold night just before Christmas 1973, long after dinner, the rest of the family asleep, Forhan’s father killed himself in the carport.

Forty years later, Forhan “excavates both his lost father and a lost era in American history” (Bookpage). At the heart of this “fiercely honest” (Nick Flynn) investigation is Forhan’s father, a man whose crisp suits and gelled hair belied a darkness he could not control, a man whose striking dichotomy embodied the ethos of an era. Weaving together the lives of his ancestors, his parents, and his own coming of age in the 60s and 70s, Forhan paints an “achingly beautiful” (Buffalo News) portrait of a family “in the tradition of Geoffrey Wolff” (Booklist).

“Poignant…affecting…Forhan describes his family’s healing and acceptance with warmth, humor, and an admirable lack of bitterness” (Kirkus Reviews). A family history, an investigation into a death, and a stirring portrait of an Irish Catholic childhood, all set against a backdrop of America from the Great Depression to the Ramones, My Father Before Me is “an exquisite example of the power of honesty” (Jeannette Walls), “a wonderfully engrossing book…essential for all parents and children, that is, all people” (Library Journal, starred review).

About Chris Forhan

Chris Forhan is the author of the memoir, My Father Before Me, as well as poetry collections Forgive Us Our Happiness, winner of the Bakeless Prize; The Actual Moon, The Actual Stars, winner of the Samuel French Morse Poetry Prize; and Black Leapt In, chosen by poet Phillis Levin for the Barrow Street Press Book Prize. He was raised in Seattle and earned an MA from the University of New Hampshire and an MFA from the University of Virginia. He has received a National Endowment for the Arts Fellowship and two Pushcart prizes. His poetry has been anthologized in The Best American Poetry 2008 and has appeared in Poetry, Ploughshares, New England Review, Parnassus, and other magazines. He teaches at Butler University in Indianapolis, where he lives with his wife and two children.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Esil on June 27, 2016

Chris Forhan's father committed suicide when Forhan was 12 years old in the 1970s. Forhan was one of eight children. Over forty years later, Forhan has written this memoir with a view to understanding his father and his father's impact on his family. It's a relatively short book, but it's very well-......more

Goodreads review by SundayAtDusk on July 05, 2016

The description of this book makes it sound darker than it is, especially the silence part. Chris Forhan grew up in a middle-class Catholic family of eight kids during the 1960s and 1970s. Silent is not an accurate way to describe this family. The family was very typical of its time. The author was......more

Goodreads review by bob on September 22, 2023

Is there a 6 star rating?? What words could I use that are stronger and more meaningful than amazing, wonderful, intense and beautiful?? How can a 300 page story of Chris Forhan's feelings, thoughts and emotions leave a reader so gob smacked, so stunned, so speechless and yet reassured and at peace.......more

Goodreads review by Lolly K Dandeneau on May 10, 2016

([URL not allowed]) Feel free to visit my blog as well. Writing a memoir is to be vulnerable, writing about your father's suicide I imagine is like sandblasting festering wounds. It's surely therapeutic to get it all out, but the introspection it requires, revisiting every mome......more

Goodreads review by Laura on September 29, 2020

What a fantastic memoir. I found this book in a dollar store. Why it was there is a mystery. It intrigued me so I grabbed it. So glad I did. You couldn't read a truer account of growing up in dysfunction unless you lived it your self. Thank you Chris for the intimate look into the laying of your fou......more