How to Be an Adult in Relationships, David Richo
How to Be an Adult in Relationships, David Richo
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How to Be an Adult in Relationships
The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

Author: David Richo

Series: Shambhala

Narrator: David Richo

Unabridged: 9 hr 20 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 03/06/2018


Synopsis

"Most people think of love as a feeling," says David Richo, "but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present." In this book, Richo offers a fresh perspective on love and relationships--one that focuses not on finding an ideal mate, but on becoming a more loving and realistic person. Drawing on the Buddhist concept of mindfulness, How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships throughout life:

1. Attention to the present moment; observing, listening, and noticing all the feelings at play in our relationships.
2. Acceptance of ourselves and others just as we are.
3. Appreciation of all our gifts, our limits, our longings, and our poignant human predicament.
4. Affection shown through holding and touching in respectful ways.
5. Allowing life and love to be just as they are, with all their ecstasy and ache, without trying to take control.

When deeply understood and applied, these five simple concepts--what Richo calls the five A's--form the basis of mature love. They help us to move away from judgment, fear, and blame to a position of openness, compassion, and realism about life and relationships. By giving and receiving these five A's, relationships become deeper and more meaningful, and they become a ground for personal transformation.

About The Author

DAVID RICHO, PhD, is a psychotherapist, teacher, writer, and workshop leader whose work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness and loving-kindness in personal growth and emotional well-being. He is the author of numerous books, including How to Be an Adult in Relationships and The Five Things We Cannot Change. He lives in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California.


Reviews

Goodreads review by malic on January 26, 2011

Every radical queer i know should read this book, and everyone else too. The ways we act in relationships (in romance, friendship, house shares, community, etc) need to be as strong as our political analyses. The Five Keys to Mindful Loving: Attention Acceptance Appreciation Affection Allowing What gets i......more

Goodreads review by Cintain on December 01, 2013

I hate this book. There, I said it. Now that this is out of the way, let me also say that this is a good book, and that I do recommend it, will probably recommend it to patients and friends, and I will eventually (and hopefully) get back to it and do some of the practices in it, when I am in a relati......more

Goodreads review by Erin on September 30, 2007

I have a good, no, GREAT relationship with my parents, who make it very clear to me everyday how much they love me. We never discussed what love looked like; I just always knew that they loved me and what it felt like to be loved, but I was utterly unable to put that into words. I started reading thi......more

Goodreads review by Janet on August 21, 2012

This book changed my life about 10 years ago so I'm re-reading it again as a reminder. Still tops my list of must reads for anyone who wants to learn how to be "an adult in relationships!!" Should be required reading for all!......more

Goodreads review by Miss on December 25, 2007

Do not be fooled by the title, this is not your typical self-help book. Each chapter has valuable nuggets of information on how to love yourself, which then evolves into how to love others. I appreciated the lack of cliches seen in most relationship books. This is not about men versus women, but rat......more