Dear Bi Men
A Black Man's Perspective on Power, Consent, Breaking Down Binaries, and Combating Erasure

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“Raw and unflinching, Dear Bi Men is a must read for those navigating their identity.

J.R. Yussuf doesn’t shy away from sharing his personal journey of coming to terms with his bisexuality. Through his own experiences navigating religion, race, and gender expectations, Yussuf deconstructs society and the harm it causes to bisexual men and other marginalized people.

More than this, Yussuf utilizes the wisdom he has learned through his journey, as well as his years of research and activism, to impart incredibly useful advice to those who are questioning or struggling with their bisexuality.

Dear Bi Men is a vital lifeline that every bi man needs on their bookshelf.”
— Vaneet Mehta, author of Bisexual Men Exist

“Bi activist and writer J.R. Yussuf brings a thorough, thoughtful analysis to bear on his unique and enlightened perspective, combining epistolary and journal formats as entry points for his personal dialog with the reader.

The arena for bi men’s voices to be raised and heard must be built on a solid platform of intense self-examination and honest acknowledgment of all aspects of one’s male bisexuality. For far too long, immense societal forces have not allowed stories like J.R.’s (and mine) to be told. The way things were, however, is not how they exist now or how they should be. This book shines with an informed and articulate perspective that will speak to many men and others.

Perhaps the best endorsement I can offer is that listening to his authentic and loving voice restores my belief that bisexual men’s stories must be told. His book informs and reaffirms my bisexual nature.”
— Ron Suresha, editor of Bi Men: Coming Out and Bisexual Perspectives on the Life and Work of Alfred C. Kinsey

“This is a searing and soaring contribution to the development of men who have long existed in the shadows of our time. Understanding the mental health and socio-emotional impacts of being bi+ is an encouraging step forward to becoming a fully integrated and powerful society that will accept, encourage, and protect the most vulnerable men from harm, persecution and exclusion.

Navigating from margins to center, we can expect Dear Bi Men to be the book that pushes society toward greater understanding of human sexuality, while giving bi+ men the resources to advocate for themselves. A book worth buying if only for the personal learning journey you are bound to embark on.”
— Alex Holmes, author of Time to Talk: How Men Think About Love, Belonging and Connection

“A must-read for anyone seeking to understand the rich diversity of the bisexual heart.

This is a how-to book for deconstructing internalized biphobia. Yussuf enriches personal stories with much-needed bi+ education.

This book is an antidote to society’s biphobia. It seeks to build a more inclusive vision of manhood through practical coping skills and a future where hearts can love freely.

Importantly, Yussuf deconstructs colonial mindsets and shows how stereotypes about bi black men are deeply rooted in white supremacy. An important addition to the queer conversation.”
— Dr. Julia Shaw, author of Bi: The Hidden Culture, History, and Science of Bisexuality