Collateral Damage, Dr. John Chirban
Collateral Damage, Dr. John Chirban
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Collateral Damage
Guiding and Protecting Your Child Through the Minefield of Divorce

Author: Dr. John Chirban

Narrator: Tom Parks

Unabridged: 6 hr 50 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Thomas Nelson

Published: 01/17/2017


Synopsis

Based on research from more than 10,000 surveys from children and parents of divorce, Collateral Damage presents parents with an overview of the negative impact that divorce has on their children and offers ways to better serve their needs at this critical time.Approximately fifty percent of marriages in the United State fail. Add to that the increasing number of couples who never marry, have children together, and later go their separate ways. In all of these scenarios, children suffer greatly—often in silence, as parents do not know how to effectively guide their kids. When the sorrow and emotional issues of children are not addressed, the cycle of divorce is likely to continue for them and in generations that follow. In addition, while children may appear to be resilient and adjusting, without proper support children of divorce are more prone to drug and alcohol abuse, criminal behavior, mental and physical illness, and suicide. How can parents manage their own hurt, shock, anger, and despair so that they can provide their children with what they need?While Collateral Damage does not advocate divorce, it does sound a wakeup call for parents. It identifies the landmines inherent in the dangerous terrain of divorce and equips them to help their children not to feel abandoned or unheard. Topics covered include:Building the family—not losing itTuning into your kidsStabilizing childhoodMaintaining parent/child rolesAvoiding the parenting handoffKeeping kids out of the war zoneInstilling trustKeeping open lines of communicationAttuning to guiding, spiritual resources The unfortunate failure of a marriage does not mean the end of the family. Providing a stable, supportive, healthy relationship with your child demonstrates what a loving relationship looks like, better preparing them for intimate relationships and marriage as an adult.

About Dr. John Chirban

Dr. John T. Chirban has taught classes about relationships, sexuality, and spirituality at his alma mater, Harvard Medical School, for more than thirty years. In addition to teaching at Hellenic College and Holy Cross, he has served also as professor of psychology and chairman of the Program on Human Development for more than thirty years.  He is in high demand as an international lecturer on family and spirituality speaking frequently before professional organizations and national societies, and as a guest consultant for magazines, newspapers, and radio shows. Since its inception, he has served on the Advisory Board for the Dr. Phil Show, where he is a frequent guest. He has also served as director of Cambridge Counseling Associates for more than thirty years, serves as a Guardian Ad Litem, in Massachusetts, where he has specializes in helping families through divorce. Dr. Chirban lives with his children in Carlisle, Massachusetts.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Via on May 10, 2017

Usually skeptical of these kinds of books, this one is dense and full of things you will learn about yourself but also things to think about as you go through your separation or divorce to be able to help those that get caught in the middle most-- the kids! Read the full review here: [URL not allowed]......more

Goodreads review by Hannah on November 10, 2018

Good content, too much of a religious lean for my liking.......more

Goodreads review by Hasadda on November 26, 2017

Dr. Chirban writes not only about his personal experiences of raising children as a single parent, but also discusses responses from surveys of grown children and how they felt and reacted to the divorce situations in their lives. The surveys also cover voices of the parents who also participated in......more

Goodreads review by Ruth on March 12, 2023

I am collateral damage, though not a kid. Basd on a long study of the effects of divorce on Children, all their comments ring true. I recognize both my son/daughter and grands in the situations! I'm not a saint, I wish I could begin all over, but reading this book helped me to put into words what, pe......more

Goodreads review by Kellen on July 01, 2017

Collateral Damage spoke to the struggles I experienced and observed of my children who were the target in the nasty divorce between my wife and me. It was a rollercoaster of emotions, but Dr.Chirban gave me a wake up call with what I was missing.......more