Missed Translations, Sopan Deb
Missed Translations, Sopan Deb
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Missed Translations
Meeting the Immigrant Parents Who Raised Me

Author: Sopan Deb

Narrator: Sopan Deb, Sunil Malhotra

Unabridged: 6 hr 29 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: HarperAudio

Published: 04/21/2020


Synopsis

A bittersweet and humorous memoir of family—of the silence and ignorance that separate us, and the blood and stories that connect us—from an award-winning New York Times writer and comedian.Approaching his 30 birthday, Sopan Deb had found comfort in his day job as a writer for the New York Times and a practicing comedian. But his stage material highlighting his South Asian culture only served to mask the insecurities borne from his family history. Sure, Deb knew the facts: his parents, both Indian, separately immigrated to North America in the 1960s and 1970s. They were brought together in a volatile and ultimately doomed arranged marriage and raised a family in suburban New Jersey before his father returned to India alone.But Deb had never learned who his parents were as individuals—their ages, how many siblings they had, what they were like as children, what their favorite movies were. Theirs was an ostensibly nuclear family without any of the familial bonds. Coming of age in a mostly white suburban town, Deb’s alienation led him to seek separation from his family and his culture, longing for the tight-knit home environment of his white friends. His desire wasn’t rooted in racism or oppression; it was born of envy and desire—for white moms who made after-school snacks and asked his friends about the girls they liked and the teachers they didn’t. Deb yearned for the same.Deb’s experiences as one of the few minorities covering the Trump campaign, and subsequently as a stand up comedian, propelled him on a dramatic journey to India to see his father—the first step in a life altering journey to bridge the emotional distance separating him from those whose DNA he shared. Deb had to learn to connect with this man he recognized yet did not know—and eventually breach the silence separating him from his mother. As it beautifully and poignantly chronicles Deb’s odyssey, Missed Translations raises questions essential to us all: Is it ever too late to pick up the pieces and offer forgiveness? How do we build bridges where there was nothing before—and what happens to us, to our past and our future, if we don't?

About Sopan Deb

Sopan Deb is a writer for The New York Times, as well as a New York City-based stand up comedian. Before joining the Times, Deb was one of a handful of reporters who covered Donald Trump's presidential campaign from start to finish as a campaign embed for CBS News. He covered hundreds of rallies in more than 40 states for a year and a half and was named a “breakout media star” of the election by Politico. At The New York Times, Deb has interviewed high profile subjects such as Denzel Washington, Stephen Colbert, the cast of Arrested Development, Kyrie Irving and Bill Murray. Deb’s work has previously appeared on NBC, Al Jazeera America and The Boston Globe, ranging from examining the trek of endangered manatees to following a class of blind filmmakers in Boston led by the former executive producer of Friends. He won an Edward R. Murrow award for a documentary he produced for the Boston Globe called “Larger Than Life,” which told the story about the NBA Hall of Famer Bill Russell’s complicated relationship with the city of Boston.He lives in New York City.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Sopan Deb on December 19, 2019

I am a bit biased on this, given that I wrote the book. But my hope is that there is something in this memoir for everyone. It’s a story about family, comedy, healing, forgiveness and so much more. It’s an immigrant story. A South Asian story. (Not THE South Asian story, mind you. Just one of many f......more

Goodreads review by Kiran on July 03, 2020

I was conflicted as to what star rating I should give to Sopan Deb's very Indian-American memoir. One thing which certainly elevated this book for me was the fact that beyond an autobiography of Deb's life as a journalist and ABCD, it was fundamentally a book about Deb's relationship with his father......more

Goodreads review by Erica on October 28, 2019

Full disclosure, I have more than a vested interest in this book, but looking beyond that, it was a truly moving read. How often do we stop and look at our lives thinking, how did I get here? What am I doing? Why am I like this? So much of our lives are the result of the choices we make, and the sit......more

Goodreads review by Ashendri on May 16, 2020

i can easily say that this is one of the best books i’ve read this year. i’m so happy that it came my way because i don’t think my relationship with my parents will be the same after this—i’m determined for it not to be! sopan’s writing is equally poignant as it is hopeful because he artfully takes......more

Goodreads review by Chandra on March 22, 2022

In Missed Translations: Meeting the Immigrant Parents Who Raised Me, Sopan Deb, a New York Times reporter, and stand-up comedian, narrates the journey of getting to know his parents. He undertakes a trip to India to gather details about them and their lives as he tries to reconnect with them and re-......more