SM 101
A Realistic Introduction

I can’t pinpoint it exactly, but for some reason I loved this book. It goes over a lot of information BDSMers already know, (hence the 101), but I found it was written in a way that I enjoyed revisiting the basics. What you need to know before buying it: ■ In some ways it is wildly out of date. The......more

Wiseman's years of experience come through as the strongest feature of this guidebook with excellent step-by-step breakdowns for novices. Unfortunately for me those sections are the minority in SM 101, with several pages devoted to his personal opinions on "the scene" (Which were personally not appl......more

Whilst reading about SM I discovered a whole pile of real trash - writers with mental health issues who should be in therapy, not in SM relationships! I also found a real lack of connection between partners - they the lacked emotional, spiritual or indeed physical intimacy required to make explorati......more

Research for Screwing the System. A very comprehensive primer in BDSM, the scene, and an introduction to the many varied way people might choose to play. This is strong on safety, and while some aspects might be a little dated now, it's still a great reference. Could have done with illustrations, but......more

The stand by go to book for folks who are interested in safe, sane and consensual power exchange. Jay writes in an accessible voice that will have any reader feeling like they are spending an evening with a beloved uncle. Jay can get corny in parts but it is part of the charm of the book. It is best......more