Polysecure
Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

The non-monormative attachment book I have desired for so many years! As someone who is monogamous (and begrudgingly attracted to men), works with poly clients, and has a few close friendships, I felt like I could trust this book’s wisdom without any heteronormative, monogamy-centric brainwashing. J......more

There are more than a few books out there about how nonmonogamy works. We haven't moved very far past them, most books are about what it is, how it works, the basics. But for regular relationships, those kinds of books don't really exist. For monogamous relationships, though, you have a seemingly in......more

Paired with the help of a good, polyamory-competent therapist, I can imagine no better resource than this book for helping insecurely-attached people figure out how to do non-monogamy in a way that is happy and healthy, rather than constantly triggering and retraumatizing. Anyone who liked this book......more

I was very disappointed by this book. I have practiced consensual/ethical non-monogamy for seven years and I did find the glossary to be good for beginners. But, this book doesn’t shed anything new or substantial on attachment theory and I couldn’t finish it to see if it sheds anything new on ENM an......more

While there have been several landmark books on polyamory, such as The Ethical Slut and More Than Two, and while there have been books on using trauma and attachment theory to understand how to navigate a wide range of interpersonal relationships, including different types of monogamous relationship......more