I Dont Want to Talk About It, Terrence Real
I Dont Want to Talk About It, Terrence Real
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I Don't Want to Talk About It
Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

Author: Terrence Real

Narrator: Adam Verner

Unabridged: 12 hr 28 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Tantor Media

Published: 12/05/2011


Synopsis

Each year, millions of men and women fall prey to depression. While the disorder has been called "psychiatry's most treatable condition," less than one in five get help. In recent years, the silence surrounding depression in women has begun to lift, but only now, with this powerful groundbreaking work, does psychotherapist Terrence Real expose a virtual epidemic of the disorder in men.

Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced Real that there are two forms of depression: "overt" and "covert." Feeling the stigma of depression's "unmanliness," many men hide
their condition not only from family and friends but even from
themselves. Attempts to escape depression fuel many of the problems we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism,
alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage. By directing their pain outward, depressed men hurt the people they love, and, most tragically, pass their condition on to their children.

A master storyteller, Real mixes penetrating analysis with poignant, compelling tales of the men and women whom he treats. He writes with passion and searing clarity about his own experiences with depression, as the son of a depressed, violent father, and the father of two young sons.

Peggy Papp of the Ackerman Family Institute calls this book "a pathway out of the darkness." Real teaches us how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. I Don't Want to Talk About It
offers great wisdom, hope, and practical guidance to men and their families. This is one of the most important and straightforward books ever written about men.

About Terrence Real

Terrence Real is a psychotherapist in private practice. He has taught couples and family therapy, principally at the Family Institute of Cambridge, for twenty years. He is also the author of How Can I Get Through to You? and has been featured on NBC Nightly News and Good Morning America, as well as in the New York Times, Psychology Today, and numerous academic publications. He lives with his wife and two sons in Newton, Massachusetts.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Michael on March 29, 2017

There needs to be a 6th star option for this book. This is by far the most important and impactful book I've read in recent memory. This is a subject that doesn't get talked about, and that many feel like they can't talk about, so that's why it's so important. So many men going through life carrying......more

Goodreads review by Richard on August 17, 2007

About half-way through. Subtitle could be "Masculinity in the Simon Family Tradition"-- I can picture generations of us reading this and saying, "How the hell did he find this out about me? I've never told anyone..." One or two might then look at the title and do a Homeric "DOH!" But forget about th......more

Goodreads review by Jake on July 13, 2009

As happens with lots of college students, there came that point where I needed to talk to someone. It wasn’t just that I was in over my head, it was that I didn’t care and didn’t plan on getting better. On my second try, I found a therapist who was a good fit for me. She had a different background a......more

Goodreads review by Haley on September 24, 2024

This book is going to be something that I continue to think about for a long time. It was published in '98, but so much of it still holds up as if it were written yesterday. I think it should be a mandated read for those raising boys! I would be interested if an afterword or an extended edition was......more

Goodreads review by Kevin on October 07, 2015

One of the best books on the topic of depression. Men and women are equal - and not the same. In some ways, we experience ourselves differently and society has different pressures and expectations. Any man who has experienced depression, anyone who loves a man who has experienced depression would be......more