You Had Me at Bonjour, Dufflyn Lammers
You Had Me at Bonjour, Dufflyn Lammers
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You Had Me at Bonjour
A Midlife Memoir of Romance and Reinvention

Author: Dufflyn Lammers

Narrator: Dufflyn Lammers

Unabridged: 9 hr 26 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Rise Books

Published: 06/04/2026

Synopsis

On the precipice of 40, Dufflyn has little to show for herself besides a jagged history in love, a failing Hollywood career, and a severe case of unrealized wanderlust. Despite the magical ability she has inherited from her mother, she fears ending up another washed-up, perpetually single actress in the armpit of Los Angeles. Considering her options, she does what any half-sane woman would—she gets on the next plane to Paris.And then she meets Benjamin (cue the red flag parade). He’s handsome. He’s French. He’s only a year and a half off of heroin and still on parole for carjacking. But what happens when your heart’s desire outweighs every obstacle thrown in its path? Because what Dufflyn discovers in Paris—outside of very strong cheese, con artists, and the Mona Lisa—is that after ten years of recovery and self-development, she has finally found true love.In You Had Me at Bonjour, Dufflyn shares the intimate story of two lovers out on a limb, of what it’s like to risk everything for love when you are already living on borrowed time. Can they make it work despite distance, anger, jealousy, and the sexual politics of two very different cultures? Is her “magic” just fantasy, and is she fooling herself once again? It would be funny if the stakes weren’t so high. But in the end, Paris is not what she expected, any more than Benjamin is what she expected.This romantic memoir will surprise you with its heart, profound insights, and undying hope in the face of the impossible. Get ready to believe in love again.

About Dufflyn Lammers

Dufflyn Lammers, the American Love Coach in Paris, is represented by the Gusay Literary Agency in Los Angeles. She is a slam poet, writer, and leading relationship expert. Lammers has been published in the Los Angeles Times, Business Insider, Santa Fe Writers Project, The Good Life Review, Iowa Woman, and elsewhere. She co-edited the spoken word anthology Chorus with Saul Williams, 2014. Lammers is anthologized in Poetry Slam: The Competitive Art of Performance Poetry, edited by Gary Glazner, 2000. She was awarded the 2018 Silver Medal Solas Award for Travel Writing in the Love category by Traveler’s Tales. She has been a regular contributor at TheFix.com and InTheRooms.com, the world’s leading resources for addiction and recovery news. Her one-woman show Discovered debuted on the West End in London, in May 2017 and was nominated for the Duende award at the Hollywood Fringe Festival in 2018. She has appeared on Russell Simmons Def Poetry Jam, Criminal Minds, Entourage, and in Belly from Artisan Films. In 2011 she wrote, produced, and starred in the short film Raven. Lammers is the founder of Dufflyn.com, where she offers online courses, a membership, and one-to-one coaching for women who want to create secure relationships. Her work combines Tantra, Attachment Repair, Intervention, and Coaching techniques to help women create optimum relational wellbeing. She has the best Frida Kahlo costume you’ve ever seen, a self-described “hyena laugh,” and can often be found wandering the streets of Paris looking for Hellman’s Mayonnaise.

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“You Had Me at Bonjour is one of the rarest of romantic memoirs—one where love actually…wins! Dufflyn is a beautiful writer whose journey of being a middle-aged woman (and recovering actress) who falls in love with a former junkie in Paris is at once unexpected, challenging, and yet still a love story for the ages. Just when you think romance is dead, You Had Me at Bonjour reminds us that we can find love in the unlikeliest people, even if it’s in the likeliest of places!” Jennifer Pastiloff, author of On Being Human

“Dufflyn Lammers true story of meeting a bad boy in Paris has all the makings of a love story gone wrong. But as Dufflyn shares, sometimes two committed people can right the wrongs of their lives. And each other’s. You Had Me at Bonjour is like the real Emily in Paris, except its protagonists have been through some stuff. In her heartbreaking and heart-bursting memoir, Dufflyn recounts how she met the love of her life and how together, they learned how to turn a romantic tryst into a long-term partnership. And a reminder to us all that love is still alive.” Cynthia Rice Ellingsen, bestselling author of the Starlight Cove series

“You Had Me at Bonjour is an extraordinary story of resilience, romance, and recovery. This story captured me with its magic from page one. Dufflyn has the courage to say the things so many of us want to say but feel we aren’t allowed to say. You feel like she’s telling your story, because really it is the story of love.” Sia, singer, songwriter

“You Had Me at Bonjour is a reminder to us all that love is very much alive. Dufflyn’s memoir breaks your heart and fixes it in what is a helpful guide in transformative commitment and powerful testimony of healing, growth, and righting wrongs through the chance encounter with the love of your life.” Saul Williams, rapper, musician, poet, and actor

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