Why Him? Why Her?, Helen Fisher
Why Him? Why Her?, Helen Fisher
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Why Him? Why Her?
Finding Real Love by Understanding Your Personality Type

Author: Helen Fisher

Narrator: Helen Fisher

Unabridged: 7 hr 49 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 01/20/2009


Synopsis

The national bestselling book Why Him? Why Her? shows how a better understanding of who you are will help you find and keep the love you want

Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? In this fascinating and informative book, Helen Fisher, one of the world's leading experts on romantic love, unlocks the hidden code of desire and attachment. Each of us, it turns out, primarily expresses one of four broad personality types—Explorer, Builder, Director, or Negotiator—and each of these types is governed by different chemical systems in the brain. Driven by this biology, we are attracted to partners who both mirror and complement our own personality type.

Until now the search for love has been blind, but Fisher pulls back the curtain and reveals how we unconsciously go about finding the right match. Drawing on her unique study of 40,000 men and women, she explores each personality type in detail and shows you how to identify your own type. Then she explains why some types match up well, whereas others are problematic. (Note to Explorers: be prepared for a wild ride when you hitch your star to a fellow Explorer!) Ultimately, Fisher's investigation into the complex nature of romance and attachment leads to astonishing new insights into the essence of dating, love, and marriage.

Based on entirely new research—including a detailed questionnaire completed by five million people in thirty-three countries—Why Him? Why Her? will change your understanding of why you love him (or her) and help you use nature's chemistry to find and keep your life partner.

About Helen Fisher

Dr. Helen Fisher, referred to by Time magazine as “the queen mum of romance research,” is an internationally renowned biological anthropologist and one of the world’s leading experts in the science of human attraction. Using functional magnetic resonance imaging, she studies the brain in love. And with her long-standing research, she helped develop one of the fastest-growing online relationship sites, Chemistry.com, a subsidiary of Match.com. Introduced in February 2006, Chemistry.com features the Chemistry Personality Test and Matching System, both developed by Fisher. To date, more than seven million people have taken the test, which is available in forty countries. In addition to serving as the chief scientific adviser for Chemistry.com, Fisher has authored several books and many articles in scientific journals and popular magazines. Her perspective on love, sexuality, women, and gender differences is regularly featured in major news outlets, including The Today Show, CNN, National Public Radio, BBC, and The New York Times. As a research professor in the Department of Anthropology at Rutgers University, she focuses on the role of biology in human sex, love, and marriage.Fisher’s widely anticipated book Why Him? Why Her? (Henry Holt and Company; January 20, 2009) proves her scientific hypotheses about why we are attracted to one person rather than another. Why Him? Why Her? follows Fisher’s 2004 book, Why We Love (Henry Holt), which was translated into sixteen languages. It discussed her research on the brain physiology, evolution, and worldwide expression of romantic love. In her 1999 book, The First Sex: The Natural Talents of Women and How They Are Changing the World—which received the New York Times Book Review Notable Book award and was published in fourteen languages—she discussed gender differences in the brain and behavior, and the impact of women on twenty-first-century business, sex, and family life. Fisher’s other books include Anatomy of Love: The Natural History of Mating, Marriage, and Why We Stray (1992), also a New York Times Notable Book, with nineteen foreign-language editions; and The Sex Contract: The Evolution of Human Behavior (1982), translated into five languages. Her articles have appeared in The Journal of Comparative Neurology, Journal of Neurophysiology, Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, The Journal of NIH Research, Psychology Today, Natural History, New Scientist, The New York Review of Books, The Chronicle of Higher Education, and many other journals, magazines, and books.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Gary

This book aims to help people find their correct partner for love and marriage-the brain chemistry for romantic love. It centres around the supposition that there are four basic personality types, controlled by the dominant chemical element in the body. The author begins with the statement that scient......more

Goodreads review by Valerie

This book was one I initially didn't think would be too interesting and informative for me - I've basically had the same romantic partner for 34 years. But because I continue to do research for my show "Brain Chemistry For Lovers", and because I admire Dr. Fisher's work and heard her lecture about t......more

اولش که میخواستم کتاب رو بخرم از نوشته های روی جلد خجالت میکشیدم ‘چرا او؟ ‘، ‘یافتن عشق واقعی’ اما الان هر چقدر به آخر کتاب نزدیک تر میشدم ناراحتیم بیشتر میشد به نظرم این کتاب واقعا جذاب بود ، بیشتر از دید ژنتیک و انتخاب طبیعی توضیح داده بود و خوب فقط مربوط به انتخاب پارتنر نیست اطلاعات خیلی خوبی راج......more

Goodreads review by Aaron

Currently reading Helen Fisher, WHY HIM? WHY HER? (2009). Found her book at the library. I’ve read most of it and I’m identifying myself as an Explorer: You seek adventures of the mind and senses. You are very curious and creative, and you are willing to take some risks to pursue your interests. Adap......more


Quotes

“An anthropologist and researcher on how people choose romantic partners readers her sprawling, fascinating guide with equal amounts of charm and authority. With unswerving confidence, she unfolds complex studies and insights that without her vocal brightness might put people to sleep…The author's effortless European diction makes her blend of scholarship and clinical narratives as soothing to the ear as it is to the intellect.” —AudioFile