Who I Always Was, Theresa Okokon
Who I Always Was, Theresa Okokon
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Who I Always Was
A Memoir

Author: Theresa Okokon

Narrator: Theresa Okokon

Unabridged: 6 hr 7 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 02/04/2025


Synopsis

For fans of Aftershocks and How to Slowly Kill Yourself and Others in America, an affective and deeply honest memoir in essays that “asks the deepest questions of identity, of home, of belonging” (Nick Flynn, author of Another Bullshit Night in Suck City).

When Theresa Okokon was nine, her father traveled to his hometown in Nigeria to attend his mother’s funeral…and never returned. His mysterious death shattered Theresa as her family’s world unraveled. Now a storyteller and television cohost, Okokon sets out to explore the ripple effects of that profound loss and the way heartache shapes our sense of self and of the world—for the rest of our lives.

Using her grief and her father’s death as a backdrop, “gifted storyteller” (Neema Avashai, author of Another Appalachia) Okokon delves deeply into intrinsic themes of Blackness, African spirituality, family, abandonment, belonging, and the seemingly endless, unrequited romantic pursuits of a Black woman who came of age as a Black girl in Wisconsin suburbs where she was—in many ways—always an anomaly.

About Theresa Okokon

Theresa Okokon is an award-winning writer, storyteller, and teacher. Her work has appeared in Ellemidnight & indigoHippocampus Magazine, and much more. Her first book is the essay collection Who I Always Was. Follow her on Instagram at @Ohh.Jeezzz and find out more at TheresaOkokon.com.


Reviews

Goodreads review by emma on February 18, 2025

i always was a memoir girl (thanks to the publisher for the arc)......more

Goodreads review by Abby on January 31, 2025

This is a wonderful memoir written in short stories that gives a look into the life of a first generation American Gahanian and Nigerian. Early in the book Okokon acknowledges that most of her readers will be white women. While I do fall into that category, I immediately related to the author and he......more

Goodreads review by Claire on February 03, 2025

A memoir told in essays, this was a well-written look into the life of the daughter of African immigrants who was raised in (very white) Wisconsin and all that comes with that. Her essays touch on a variety of topics, including the duality of being a black woman raised in a white environment, discov......more

Goodreads review by Jessica on June 07, 2024

I loved this book! Okokon is a masterful writer and her prose is so much fun to read. Each essay stands alone well, but I really appreciated how she wove them all together to tell her story. This book has such authenticity and personality while simultaneously being very relatable. She dives into dee......more

Goodreads review by Peter on December 29, 2024

Disclosure: I know the author (like in the "They officiated my wedding and we go on vacations together" way). Now onto the review: Another reviewer of this book (thanks, Jaye Donnelly) stated that this book reads "as if being told to you by an old childhood friend." While I am not an "old childhood fr......more