Victor or Victim?
From Head to Heart: The Science of Emotions

In today’s modern society with endless amounts of stupid politically correct morons begging sympathy almost daily, it’s almost de regeur to shout the victim stance. However, once you become a victim you lose so much control, self-esteem, love, (or to be loved), no one likes you anymore, few want to help you are they frequently get dragged into someone else’s mire. A victor stands to gain everything.