The Man Who Lied to His Laptop, Clifford Nass
The Man Who Lied to His Laptop, Clifford Nass
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The Man Who Lied to His Laptop
What Machines Teach Us About Human Relationships

Author: Clifford Nass, Corina Yen

Narrator: Sean Pratt

Unabridged: 7 hr 46 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Ascent Audio

Published: 09/13/2010


Synopsis

STARTLING INSIGHTS INTO PERSUASION, TRUST, EMPATHY, AND TEAMWORK BASED ON REVELATIONS ABOUT HOW WE TREAT OUR COMPUTERS

The driver was insistent: “A woman should not be giving directions.” Despite the customer service rep’s reassurance that the navigation system in his car wasn’t actually a woman—just a computer with a female voice—the driver (and many others like him) refused to listen. There was only one person for BMW to call for help: Clifford Nass, one of the world’s leading experts on how people interact with technology.

After two decades of studying problems like BMW’s GPS system, Microsoft’s Clippy (the most hated animated character of all time), and online evaluations that led people to lie to their laptops, Nass has developed a powerful theory: Our brains can’t fundamentally distinguish between interacting with people and interacting with devices. We will “protect” a computer’s feelings, feel flattered by a brown-nosing piece of software, and even do favors for technology that has been “nice” to us. All without even realizing it.

Nass has found that the most powerful strategies for working with people can be learned from watching what succeeds and fails in technology interfaces. If a computer can make friends, build teams, and calm powerful emotions, so can any of us.

Nass’s studies reveal:
• Mixing criticism with praise—a popular tactic for managers—is a destructive method of evaluation.
• Opposites don’t attract—except when one gradually changes to become more like the other.
• Flattery works—even when the recipient knows it’s flattery.
• Team-building exercises don’t build teams—but the right T-shirt can.
• Misery loves company—but only if the company is miserable, too.

Nass’s discoveries push the boundaries of both psychology and technology and provide nothing less than a new blueprint for successful human relationships.

Reviews

Goodreads review by ☘Misericordia☘ on February 03, 2021

Note to self: must always be straightforward with my laptop! Q: Typical discussions about mindsets betray a fixed mindset. (с) Uh-huh. The first rule of the Growth Midset Club is: You do not talk about Mindsets at all. I wouldn't be so sure that this really was flattery: Q:the computer was obviously a......more

Goodreads review by Tom on April 06, 2020

Fittingly, I lied to my phone to access this audiobook. With the library closed for social distancing I'm limited to digital versions of the books I want, and that meant downloading several apps to access titles published in different formats. (We haven't standardized who provides our audiobooks yet......more

Goodreads review by Christy on October 26, 2010

I was hoping that the book would cover how machines can teach us about human relationships...like the title said. Instead it was just another book that vaguely covers personality types and a bunch of common sense situations that are IRL...where do the machines come in?......more

Goodreads review by Bojan on September 13, 2012

It’s been said so many times that it’s by now become a staid cliché: humans are social animals. We are adapted to social interaction, and to a large extend depend on our ability to interact and cooperate with others. Considering how important our social interactions are for our survival, it is surpr......more

Goodreads review by Shivon on July 05, 2016

Learning EQ from machines... who'd have thunk it? A few fantastic takeaways that may be obvious to folks who have read business and sales books (I sadly haven't) so was well worth it for me. Most helpful, perhaps, was how to relate most effectively to a sad friend and make sure gender dynamics are s......more