The Male Gazed, Manuel Betancourt
The Male Gazed, Manuel Betancourt
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The Male Gazed
On Hunks, Heartthrobs, and What Pop Culture Taught Me About (Desiring) Men

Author: Manuel Betancourt

Narrator: Manuel Betancourt

Unabridged: 6 hr 49 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Tantor Media

Published: 07/18/2023


Synopsis

Manuel Betancourt has long lustfully coveted masculinity—in part because he so lacked it. As a child in Bogotá, Colombia, he grew up with the social pressure to appear strong, manly, and, ultimately, straight. And yet in the films and television he avidly watched, Betancourt saw glimmers of different possibilities. From the stars of telenovelas and the princes of Disney films to pop sensation Ricky Martin and teen heartthrobs in shows like Saved By the Bell, he continually found himself asking: Do I want him, or do I want to be him?

The Male Gazed grapples with the thrall of masculinity, examining its frailty and its attendant anxieties even as it focuses on its erotic potential. Masculinity, Betancourt suggests, isn't suddenly ripe for deconstruction—or even outright destruction—amid so much talk about its inherent toxicity. Looking back over decades' worth of pop culture's attempts to codify and reframe what men can be, wear, do, and desire, this book establishes that to gaze at men is still a subversive act.

Written in the spirit of Hanif Abdurraqib and Olivia Laing, The Male Gazed mingles personal anecdotes with cultural criticism to offer an exploration of intimacy, homoeroticism, and the danger of internalizing too many toxic ideas about masculinity as a gay man.

About Manuel Betancourt

Manuel Betancourt is a queer Colombian culture writer and film critic. His work has been featured in the New York Times, BuzzFeed Reader, Los Angeles Times, Film Quarterly, Los Angeles Review of Books, and GQ Style, among others. Manuel is the author of Judy Garland's Judy at Carnegie Hall (Bloomsbury Press, 2020), and a contributing writer to the Eisner Award-nominated graphic novel series, The Cardboard Kingdom (Knopf Books for Young Readers, 2018 & 2021).


Reviews

Goodreads review by Meike on August 13, 2024

A non-fiction book about pop culture and looking at beautiful men? Count me in! More than anything though, "The Male Gazed" is the memoir of Betancourt, a gay cultural critic who grew up in Columbia, studied in Canada and now resides in Los Angeles. Structured around themes, he enriches his experien......more

Goodreads review by Gerhard on January 03, 2024

The manufactured intimacy a show like Drag Race creates, though, has served as a welcome window into a kind of queer utopia, a space where bodies aren’t sites of contention but sites of artistry and possibility. A space where, following Ru’s cosmology, we’re all encouraged to break masculinity apart......more

Goodreads review by Nev on April 13, 2023

I had a great time reading this. It’s an excellent bridge between personal essays and more academic looks at the different topics throughout the book. The Male Gazed is about the ways that the media portrays masculinity and homoeroticism and how that impacts the ways that men, especially gay men, th......more

Goodreads review by Braden on March 15, 2025

In under 200 pages, Betancourt provides ten essays on a variety of topics exploring the ins and outs of masculinity and the male form, aka why we're so enamored with wrestlers in singlets, Hercules, Gaston, and King Triton. Masculinity is truly such a learned and put on identity - a costume men wear......more

Goodreads review by Harrison on February 25, 2024

I loved reading this collection of essays and learning new and interesting things about myself through the eyes of Manuel Betancourt. He is a phenomenal writer and offers powerful insight and asks the reader what it means to be a "man", who is queer, and what it all means in the end. I hope he write......more