The Assertiveness Guide for Women, Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW
The Assertiveness Guide for Women, Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW
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The Assertiveness Guide for Women
How to Communicate Your Needs, Set Healthy Boundaries & Transform Your Relationships

Author: Julie de Azevedo Hanks, PhD, LCSW

Narrator: Rebecca Roberts

Unabridged: 5 hr 27 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Wetware Media

Published: 08/30/2016


Synopsis

Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life.

When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances.

Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want.

Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Hannah on July 23, 2016

I received a free copy of this book in exchange for a fair review. (Also, I've always wanted to say that!) Let's start with this: the book isn't what I was expecting, exactly, but that's not bad. I consider myself an assertive person, at least for a woman (more on that later), but I was eager to rea......more

Goodreads review by Adri on August 24, 2016

Why only 3 stars? Although I found the book insightful and helpful, in my opinion: the title is deceiving. It could have been called something like "Ways to assess your emotions: plus a few tips on setting boundaries." The bulk of the book is about assessing your own thoughts, feelings, etc... I lik......more

Goodreads review by Julia on September 20, 2017

Lots of really good insights and ideas in this book. It's specifically for women but I felt like there was a lot of great information for all genders. It paired really well with so many of the things my therapist is having me work on too and really made me look at myself and others in new ways. Being......more

Goodreads review by Marisa on January 07, 2020

"The Assertiveness Guide for Women" é, ao contrário do que o título possa sugerir, uma obra indicada para mulheres, mas também para homens. Ao contrário da perspectiva defendida em certa medida pela autora, a eventual dificuldade em ser assertivo não é algo que resulte do género. Comunicar necessida......more

Goodreads review by Tori on September 02, 2021

Helpful book for self-reflection, especially in relation to attachment and communication style. While there is a tie to assertiveness with these, it’s not the main point, so the title is a bit misleading.......more