No One Understands You and What to Do..., Heidi Grant Halvorson
No One Understands You and What to Do..., Heidi Grant Halvorson
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No One Understands You and What to Do About It

Author: Heidi Grant Halvorson

Narrator: Eliza Foss

Unabridged: 5 hr 18 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Ascent Audio

Published: 02/28/2023


Synopsis

Have you ever felt you're not getting through to the person you're talking to, or not coming across the way you intend? You're not alone.

Most of us assume that other people see us as we see ourselves, and that they see us as we truly are. But neither is true. Our everyday interactions are colored by subtle biases that distort how others see us—and also shape our perceptions of them.

You can learn to clarify the message you’re sending once you understand the lenses that shape perception:

● Trust. Are you friend or foe?

● Power. How much influence do you have over me?

● Ego. Do you make me feel insecure?

Based on decades of research in psychology and social science, Heidi Grant Halvorson explains how these lenses affect our interactions—and how to manage them. Once you understand the science of perception, you'll communicate more clearly, send the messages you intend to send, and improve your personal relationships. You'll also become a fairer and more accurate judge of others. Halvorson even offers an evidence-based action plan for repairing a damaged reputation.

Reviews

Goodreads review by David

The premise of this book is that it will help you get others to perceive you as you really are. That’s a smart way to market a book in a world where so many of us feel misunderstood. But it’s not until the very last page that author Heidi Grant Halvorsan notes an important addendum: we’re also prett......more

Goodreads review by Kris

Cognitive miser might be my new favorite insult.......more

Goodreads review by Suzanne

This was a fascinating read, and I've been thinking (and talking with people) about different insights as a result. It was helpful in understanding how we all face huge challenges in truly seeing each other clearly. For example, human beings are naturally "cognitive misers" and will use short cuts t......more

On the one hand, this book is pretty simple and straightforward. If you've taken a Psych 1000 course at any point, most of this won't be new. If you've taken higher psych course, with the exception of a few terms, this really won't be new. On the other, while some of the suggestions are so obvious, t......more

Goodreads review by Kenia

This book offers some real practical advice that is based in science, on how to ensure you're sending the intended signals to others during first impressions, as well as how to correct any wrong perceptions others have made of you. Very useful, which I like. It inspired notes. :-)......more