No One Loves an Angry Woman
An Exvangelical Coming-of-Rage Story

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“Gemma Hartley’s account of unlearning fear, questioning faith, walking away from white patriarchy, and finding freedom on the other side is searing and compelling. Both personal memoir and cultural critique, this book is a courageous example of walking out of the only story you’ve ever been told and, an act of generosity, writing your own.”
—Soraya Chemaly, author of Rage Becomes Her and The Resilience Myth

“Gemma Hartley has written a memoir that is at once a feminist manifesto and a love letter to her younger self. Not only is this book packed with mic-drop wisdom; its gorgeous prose will demand to be read, reread, and read again. Each essay acts as a North Star to deftly guide the reader through the life of the book’s titular ‘angry woman.’ But what Hartley does by the end is utterly brilliant—not only will you fall in love with this ‘unlovable angry woman’; you will admire her, you will respect her, and you will applaud her.”
—Reema Zaman, author of I Am Yours

“A brave, bold, timely, and intimate exploration of how Christian patriarchy harms girls and women. No One Loves an Angry Woman probes the intricate process by which our emotions become gendered and constrained as we grow up, as well as the complicated work women must do to save themselves from worldviews that don’t perceive them as fully human and to find their own voices amid so much clamoring about who and what women should be. The honesty and rigor of this book is a gift.”
—Amanda Montei, author of Touched Out

"Captivating from the first sentence, No One Loves an Angry Woman is equal parts validating, maddening, and illuminating. The quick and sharp teeth of Gemma Hartley’s prose build a roaring fire as understandable resentments pile up. 'I remember what happened to me' echoes on the pages as Hartley excavates the rippling impacts of violent doctrines, theological aggressions against women, rape, deliberate miseducation, medical trauma, and more. This book not only provides permission to be angry but also carves space for anger, and as the religious and patriarchal forces that shaped Hartley’s experiences assert dominance in America, this book couldn’t be more timely or necessary. A seething read that burns to the bone."
—Tia Levings, New York Times best-selling author of A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape from Christian Patriarchy

"This is a book you'll be pressing into people's hands for years. Hartley traces her rage all the way back to its source and turns it into something that feels like a gift. Come for the memoir, leave with a whole new relationship to your own fury."
—Amanda Montell, New York Times best-selling author of The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality

"Brilliant, unflinching, and searing, No One Loves an Angry Woman is the book you need to read if you are as angry as you should be— or even, perhaps especially, if you are becoming inured and numb and desensitized to the horrors of patriarchy. Hartley's tour de force will enliven, embolden, and wake you up."
—Kate Manne, author of Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny