The ultimate “parenting bible” (The Boston Globe) with a new Foreword—a timeless, beloved book on how to effectively communicate with your child from the #1 New York Times bestselling authors.Internationally acclaimed experts on communication between parents and children, Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish “are doing for parenting today what Dr. Spock did for our generation” (Parent Magazine). Now, this bestselling classic includes fresh insights and suggestions as well as the author’s time-tested methods to solve common problems and build foundations for lasting relationships, including innovative ways to: · Cope with your child's negative feelings, such as frustration, anger, and disappointment· Express your strong feelings without being hurtful· Engage your child's willing cooperation· Set firm limits and maintain goodwill· Use alternatives to punishment that promote self-discipline· Understand the difference between helpful and unhelpful praise· Resolve family conflicts peacefullyEnthusiastically praised by parents and professionals around the world, the down-to-earth, respectful approach of Faber and Mazlish makes relationships with children of all ages less stressful and more rewarding.
I have mixed feelings about this book. While the chapters that talked about empathetic statements and active listening were good (and fairly common sense), this book just didn't cut it for me. Many of the chapters focus on what I'll classify as very "soft" discipline/redirection. The dialogue examples may work sometimes, but overall were pretty unrealistic and unbelievable. Overall, it helped refresh a different perspective of parenting, but this is a perspective that has failed me multiple times. Following the guidelines in this book will only result in a child testing boundaries to see what he/she can get away with.