Helping People Change, Ellen Van Oosten
Helping People Change, Ellen Van Oosten
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Helping People Change
Coaching with Compassion for Lifelong Learning and Growth

Author: Ellen Van Oosten, Richard Boyatzis, Melvin Smith

Narrator: Barry Abrams

Unabridged: 7 hr 13 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Ascent Audio

Published: 09/10/2019


Synopsis

You're trying to help—but is it working?

Helping others is a good thing. Often, as a leader, manager, doctor, teacher, or coach, it's central to your job. But even the most well-intentioned efforts to help others can be undermined by a simple truth: We almost always focus on trying to "fix" people, correcting problems or filling the gaps between where they are and where we think they should be. Unfortunately, this doesn't work well, if at all, to inspire sustained learning or positive change.

There's a better way. In this powerful, practical book, emotional intelligence expert Richard Boyatzis and Weatherhead School of Management colleagues Melvin Smith and Ellen Van Oosten present a clear and hopeful message. The way to help someone learn and change, they say, cannot be focused primarily on fixing problems, but instead must connect to that person's positive vision of themselves or an inspiring dream or goal they've long held. This is what great coaches do—they know that people draw energy from their visions and dreams, and that same energy sustains their efforts to change, even through difficult times. In contrast, problem-centered approaches trigger physiological responses that make a person defensive and less open to new ideas.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Sarah

I had very high hopes for this book and I was quite disappointed. As a passionate executive coach I'm always looking for ways to expand my skillset and my thinking. I was initially attracted to this book because it seemed like it would provide new insights into engaging people through positive emoti......more

Goodreads review by Ell

This is a solid, practical book for coaches, practitioners and supportive friends. I learned some time ago that people are more empowered when coached or counseled in a compassionate-led manner. This may seem utterly logical but most approaches are problem-led. This can be a stressful or unpleasant......more

Goodreads review by James

This is a good read for people who are interested in coaching others and those who may feel curiosity or uneasiness about being coached themselves. The coaching philosophy (coaching with compassion) seems like a nice idea compared to coaching for compliance, which is more traditional. I can see how t......more

Goodreads review by Tyson

There were a few practical nuggets for me as a coach, but I wanted more. More details, more process, and more examples. I needed to see directly the connection between compassion for a client and the process. What does it look like to coach without compassion? I know what compassion is, but tell me......more