Daughter Detox, Peg Streep
Daughter Detox, Peg Streep
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Daughter Detox
Recovering from An Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life

Author: Peg Streep

Narrator: Callie Beaulieu

Unabridged: 10 hr 34 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Tantor Media

Published: 07/10/2018


Synopsis

A self-help book based in science, the result of more than a decade of research, Daughter Detox offers the daughters of unloving mothers vital information, guidance, and real strategies for healing from childhood experiences, and building genuine self-esteem. Writer Peg Streep lays out seven distinct but interconnected stages on the path to reclaim your life from the effects of a toxic childhood: DISCOVERY, DISCERNMENT, DISTNGUISH, DISARM, RECLAIM, REDIRECT, and RECOVER. Each step is clearly explained, and richly detailed with the stories of other women, approaches drawn from psychology and other disciplines, and unique exercises. The book will help the listener tackle her own self-doubt and become consciously aware of how her mother’s treatment continues to shape her behavior, even today.

The message of the book is direct: What you experienced in childhood need not continue to hold you back in life. What was learned can be unlearned with effort.

The book begins with DISCOVERY, opening up the reader’s understanding of how she has been wounded and influenced by her mother’s treatment. Recognizing the eight toxic maternal behaviors—dismissive, controlling, emotionally unavailable, unreliable, self-involved or narcissistic, combative, enmeshed, or role-reversed—lays the foundation for the daughter’s awareness of how her way of looking at the world, connecting to others, and ability to manage stress were affected. DISCERNMENT delves into the patterns of relationship in her family of origin and how they played a part in her development, and then shifts to looking closely at how the daughter adapted to her treatment, either silencing or losing her true self in the process. Next up is DISTINGUISH, seeing how the behavioral patterns we learned in childhood animate all of our relationships in the present with lovers and spouses, relatives, friends, neighbors, and colleagues. The act of distinguishing allows us to see why so many of us end up in unsatisfying relationships, chose the wrong partners, or are unable to develop close friendships.

Active recovery begins with DISARM as the daughter learns how to disconnect unconscious patterns of reaction and behavior and substitute actions that will foster the growth of self-esteem. Understanding the triggers that set us off, the cues that put us on the defensive, and the default positions of blaming ourselves and making excuses for other people’s toxic behavior are addressed, as are unhealthy behaviors such as rumination, rejection sensitivity, and more. RECLAIM is the stage at which the reader begins to actively make new choices, preparing herself so that she can live the life she desires by seeing herself as having agency and being empowered. Making new choices and figuring out how to manage her relationship to her unloving or toxic mother is the focus of REDIRECT. There are stories to inspire and challenge your thinking, exercises that show you how to swap out self-criticism for self-compassion, guidance on how to use journaling as a tool of self-discovery and growth, and advice on goal setting.

Finally, RECOVER challenges the listener to come up with a new definition of what it means to heal, suggests tools to overcome the obstacles she places in her own way, and strategies to become the best, most authentic version of herself.

About Peg Streep

An unloved daughter herself, Peg Streep has been researching and writing about the mother-daughter relationship for twenty years, and understands firsthand the broad-ranging effects and influence of a toxic mother. Daughter Detox is her effort to offer practical advice and science-based solutions to those whose emotional needs weren't met in childhood. Peg is the author of Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt. She is a popular blogger at both PsychologyToday.com and PsychCentral.com. She holds degrees in literature from the University of Pennsylvania and Columbia University.


Reviews

Goodreads review by Tricia

This is a very helpful book if you, unfortunately, have a very toxic mother and sisters and you are trying to understand why. It is more like a step by step method to begin to love yourself and move forward. I hope that no one else experiences what I have with my mother and that you have a happy, lo......more

Goodreads review by Melissa

Great book to help you recover from a toxic family. Really helped me to solidify my decision to never contact my family again. I'll never get any kind of accountability. Helped explain their confusing illogical behaviors too.......more