Come Together, Emily Nagoski, PhD
Come Together, Emily Nagoski, PhD
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Come Together
The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections

Author: Emily Nagoski, PhD

Narrator: Emily Nagoski, PhD

Unabridged: 12 hr 2 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Published: 01/30/2024

Includes: Bonus Material Bonus Material Included


Synopsis

From the New York Times bestselling author of Come as You Are and co-author of Burnout comes an illuminating exploration of how to maintain a happy sex life in a long-term relationship.

“Emily Nagoski is a national treasure—helping us all understand how to finally build true, joyful, confident sex lives.”—Glennon Doyle, author of Untamed

In Come as You Are, Emily Nagoski, PhD, revolutionized the way we think about women’s sexuality. Now, in Come Together, Nagoski takes on a fundamentally misunderstood subject: sex in long-term relationships. 

Most of us struggle at some point to maintain a sexual connection with our partner/s or spouse. And many of us are given not-very-good advice on what to do about it. In this book, Nagoski dispels the myths we’ve been taught about sex—for instance, the belief that sexual satisfaction and desire are highest at the beginning of a relationship and that they inevitably decline the longer that relationship lasts. Nagoski assures us that’s not true.

So, what is true? Come Together isn’t about how much we want sex, or how often we’re having it; it’s about whether we like the sex we’re having. Nagoski breaks down the obstacles that impede us from enjoying sex—from stress and body image to relationship difficulties and gendered beliefs about how sex “should” be—and presents the best ways to overcome them. You’ll learn:

• that “spontaneous desire” is not the kind of desire to strive for if you want to have great sex for decades
• vocabulary for talking with partners about ways to get in “the mood” and how to not take it personally when “the mood” is nowhere to be found
• how to understand your own and your partner’s “emotional floorplan,” so that you have a blueprint for how to get to a sexy state of mind

Written with scientific rigor, humor, and compassion, Nagoski shows us what great sex can look like, how to create it in our own lives, and what to do when struggles arise.

* This audiobook edition includes a downloadable PDF of visuals and resources from the book.

About The Author

Emily Nagoski is the New York Times bestselling, award-winning author of Come as You Are and co-author, with her sister, Amelia, of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. She earned an MS in counseling and a PhD in health behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and research training at the Kinsey Institute. Now she combines sex education and stress education to teach women to live with confidence and joy inside their bodies. She lives in Massachusetts with two dogs, a cat, and a cartoonist.


Reviews

When I look at my early highlights, I'm reminded of why I thought this book was heading for 4+ stars: solid, practical insights in abundance, many of which were the best kind of insight, the kind that make you smack yourself in the forehead because they're blindingly obvious once they're pointed out......more

Not a very helpful "woke" approach to figuring out what turns people on sexually. There is a huge lack of solid research or fact-based science; instead, the author tries to please all the modernists that are confused by basic science-based biology and how the majority of people operate. There are a......more

4.0 Stars I actually liked this book more Come As You Are because it focuses on aligning the needs between both individuals rather than just talking about the female experience. I just found this one more practically useful while the first book really started with the basics.......more

Goodreads review by Kilee

Yes, I’ve been on a sex-ed brigade lately, but for good reason. I really want to be as informed as I can possibly be about reproductive health, and with that comes an added layer of wanting to learn about how to maintain sexual connection in long-term relationships. There’s going to be a huge aspect......more

Goodreads review by Leah

After having read both Come As You Are and Burnout, this felt somewhat repetitive and what was left was mostly common sense things - helpful to hear and reaffirm but not exactly life changing like her previous books.......more


Quotes

Come Together is wise and deeply comforting. Once again, Emily Nagoski is dismantling myths about sexuality and giving everyone permission to discover what is already true and love what they discover.”—Angela Chen, author of Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex