Can Love Last?
The Fate of Romance over Time

Takeways from reading the book: What is desire? - Page 34: Desire can be amusing and stimulating. - Page 34: Desire without love lacks the intensity that deepens romantic passion. - Page 50: Sexuality is well designed for rebellion against illusionary safety. Why? Because sexual response is unpredictabl......more

I have read a lot of books about relationships and love. This is the best without a question. It is a serious study, not a self-help crap about how to get married. This is real, so real it can hurt, but it will give you so much perspective. It is a must. Stephen Mitchell of course is a psychoanalyst......more

this book is really good, very accessible. Although its more of a philosophical than a self-help book. I skipped around to cherry-pick the case studies and then ended up re-reading the whole book from the beginning. I like his idea that passion in long term relationships doesn't dissipate because of......more

A piercing look into relational dynamics and the human psychology that colours them, Mitchell deftly employs a broad range of literary, philosophical, and anecdotal references to imbue both poetry and clarity to this complicated subject matter. Despite this, I have no doubt that Can Love Last? is a......more

Notes/Excerpts: Many can love and they can desire but cannot experience both love and desire with the same person at the same time Freud noted “Where they love they have no desire where they desire they cannot love” We experience both deeply affectionate love and intensely passionate desire but often......more