How do you manage a child who gets stomachaches every school morning, who refuses after-school activities, or who is trapped in the bathroom with compulsive washing? Children like these put a palpable strain on frustrated, helpless parents and teachers. And there is no escaping the problem: One in every five kids suffers from a diagnosable anxiety disorder. Unfortunately, when parents or professionals offer help in traditional ways, they unknowingly reinforce a child's worry and avoidance. Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents exposes the most common anxiety-enhancing patterns—including reassurance, accommodation, and avoidance—while offering exercises and techniques to change both the child's and the parents' patterns of thinking and behaving.