Nothing Personal, Nancy Jo Sales
Nothing Personal, Nancy Jo Sales
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Nothing Personal
My Secret Life in the Dating App Inferno

Author: Nancy Jo Sales

Narrator: Therese Plummer

Unabridged: 12 hr 27 min

Format: Digital Audiobook Download

Publisher: Hachette Books

Published: 05/18/2021

Synopsis

A raw and funny memoir about sex, dating, and relationships in the digital age, intertwined with a brilliant investigation into the challenges to love and intimacy wrought by dating apps, by firebrand New York Times–bestselling author Nancy Jo Sales

At forty-nine, famed Vanity Fair writer Nancy Jo Sales was nursing a broken heart and wondering, “How did I wind up alone?” On the advice of a young friend, she downloaded Tinder, then a brand-new dating app. What followed was a raucous ride through the world of online dating. Sales, an award-winning journalist and single mom, became a leading critic of the online dating industry, reporting and writing articles and making her directorial debut with the HBO documentary Swiped: Hooking Up in the Digital Age. Meanwhile, she was dating a series of younger men, eventually falling in love with a man less than half her age.
 
Nothing Personal is Sales’s memoir of coming-of-middle-age in the midst of a new dating revolution. She is unsparingly honest about her own experience of addiction to dating apps and hilarious in her musings about dick pics, sexting, dating FOMO, and more. Does Big Dating really want us to find love, she asks, or just keep on using its apps? 

​Fiercely feminist, Nothing Personal investigates how Big Dating has overwhelmed the landscape of dating, cynically profiting off its users’ deepest needs and desires. Looking back through the history of modern courtship and her own relationships, Sales examines how sexism has always been a factor for women in dating, and asks what the future of courtship will bring, if left to the designs of Silicon Valley’s tech giants—especially in a time of social distancing and a global pandemic, when the rules of romance are once again changing.
 

About Nancy Jo Sales

Nancy Jo Sales is an award-winning journalist who has written for Vanity Fair, New York, Harper's Bazaar, and many other publications. She has written profiles of Damien Hirst, Hugh Hefner, Russell Simmons, Donald Trump, Tyra Banks, Angelina Jolie, Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, and Taylor Swift. Her acclaimed 2010 Vanity Fair piece ""The Suspects Wore Louboutins"" is the basis for the Sofia Coppola film The Bling Ring. Sales lives in New York City with her daughter.

Reviews

Goodreads review by Jessica on October 27, 2021

I received copy of this book for free from the publisher (Hachette Books) in exchange for an honest review. I give this book 3.5 stars which rounds up to 4. I was looking forward to reading this book because I’ve been using dating apps off and on for almost 2 years now. I was curious to see how my e......more

Goodreads review by Irina on December 30, 2020

Ok, if you are a recently single 20 something-year-old like me, please do yourself a favor and get this book. I started reading it because I too am new to dating apps after having been in nonstop long term relationships, and this book was the exact type of advice I would have gotten from a cool olde......more

Goodreads review by Samantha on January 03, 2021

This book spoke to me, in a way most memoirs do not. NJS is incredibly relatable because she is candid and unapologetic. She was able to paint a macro picture about the sociological effects of online dating, and also recounts her own personal experiences dealing with misogyny on dating apps in a way......more

Goodreads review by Ariel on January 05, 2021

As a young woman navigating the modern day dating scene, I feel like I am constantly asking myself "Is this REALLY how things are? Am I crazy? Did this man I just met really ask if I could send him nudes?!" And yet, amidst all the insanity (and misogyny) I still find myself searching for the love an......more

Goodreads review by Shkolnikjx on December 27, 2020

I loved reading this fascinating memoir of the writer’s experiences with the world of online dating. The pitfalls along with the positive surprises kept me glued to the pages!......more

Quotes

“In Nothing Personal, Nancy Jo Sales holds nothing back! This book isn't just about dating in the digital age, it's about learning to love yourself for who you are, no matter what age or size.”—Tyra Banks

“In this warm, witty, and rigorously honest memoir, a "Confessions of an English Opium-Eater–type exposé on dating apps… Against all odds, this unsparing, must-read portrait of modern dating and sex is also a love story.” —Kirkus

“Sales’s funny, fresh approach will resonate with many single readers, as well as anyone concerned about the ways technology enables capitalism to invade personal life.”—Publishers Weekly

“Nancy Jo Sales puts everything on the table as she investigates the dizzying impact of dating apps in both our culture and her own life. This is a hot and heavy book—hot as in sexy, as in timely, as in fully, unapologetically alive; heavy as in deeply researched, as in saturated with heartache, as in worth its weight in gold.”—Gayle Brandeis, author of, The Book of Dead Birds

“With her trademark combination of wry wit and razor-sharp observation, Nancy Jo Sales dissects the systemic misogyny woven into the fabric of the capitalist online dating machine. A devastating portrait of how sexual violence and gender inequality are intertwined in many girls’ earliest formative experiences and how their impact echoes down generations."—Laura Bates, author of, Men Who Hate Women

“A refreshingly honest look into the world of online dating, revealing the myriad ways tech companies are encouraging the same old misogyny, but masquerading it as empowerment.”—Anita Sarkeesian, Executive Director of Feminist Frequency

“Nancy Jo Sales writes about the ever-changing tides of modern romance with humility and humor that reminds us how human we all are. She explores how this growing surplus of available romantic options commodifies sex and hook ups, turning courtship into utility.”—Ryan Eggold

“Nancy Jo Sales has been a leading chronicler of our digital culture, its joys and pathologies. Sales is a gift—her journey is powerful and raw, and her humor amidst it all made it difficult to put the book down. Brava, this is a masterpiece.”—Danielle Citron, author of, Hate Crimes in Cyberspace

“For those of us questioning what courtship even means in the age of dating apps, Nancy Jo Sales is a guide and a much-needed voice of reason who has swiped, sexted, and survived. Nothing Personal will be remembered for translating the world of 21st century sex and romance.”—Marisa Meltzer, author of, This is Big

“Groundbreaking… I love Nancy Jo's honesty and her connection with her own brain, heart and soul. It’s so unbelievably refreshing to read the words of a woman that are so based in truth, her truth. I love this book so much. I didn’t want to put it down.” —Peri Gilpin

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